A Productive Ramadan; Seeking Spirituality
February 22, 2024
Parenting is not just about raising children; it is about shaping souls. In our homes, we have the opportunity to nurture both faith and love through simple traditions that bring us closer to Allah ﷻ and to one another. These practices do not need to be grand or complicated; in fact, it is their consistency and sincerity that make them powerful.
With the holidays upon us, we can use this time to develop traditions that shape the habits of our families.
Daily Traditions
Family Circle Time
Gather the family before or after one of the five Salah for a few minutes of reflection. Each person can share one duʿāʾ they made that day, or a short reminder from Qur’an or hadith or simply read from a book of Fada’il. Highlighting Salah as a moment to pause and reflect, to slow down and recognise Salah as a conversation with Allah.
Gratitude Journaling Together
After Maghrib or before bedtime, invite everyone to write down (or say aloud) one blessing they noticed that day. From the food they ate to a kind word from a sibling, gratitude cultivates humility and joy.
The Prophet ﷺ taught us,
“He who does not thank people, does not thank Allah.” [Abu Dawud].
Storytelling Nights
Choose one evening a week to share stories, whether from the lives of the Prophets, the Sahabah, or even family elders. Put the screens away and immerse yourselves into the stories. Children love narratives, and these stories plant seeds of a strong identity and belonging.
Weekly Traditions
Friday Family Reflection
After Jumuʿah, sit together and discuss one lesson from the khutbah or a verse from Surah Al Kahf. The Masajid will be brimming with excited children over the holidays, this time needs to be capitalised upon by families to show them the beauty of the Masjid, community and importance of the day of Jumuah in a Muslim’s life.
Durood Competition
The peace and tranquility found in the hum of Durood echoing around the home will naturally bring a serenity to the home. Encouraging children to consistently engage in this Dhikr is important, and using a simple tasbih counter with a weekly tally for each person can help develop the habit through friendly competition. Durood should be increased on Fridays as the following hadith states:
Abud Darda’ (RA) reported Rasulullah ﷺ saying, “Invoke many blessings on me on Friday for it is witnessed. The angels are present on it, and no one will invoke a blessing on me without his Durood being submitted to me till he stops.” [Ibn Majah]
Acts of Service Together
Dedicate one evening to serving others; whether cooking a meal for a neighbour, donating clothes, or helping out your relatives. Service strengthens empathy and reminds children that Islam is lived through action. A simple smile to friend and stranger will lighten another person’s load.
Family Dhikr Walks
Take a short walk together while reciting simple adhkar such as SubḥānAllāh, Alḥamdulillāh, Allāhu Akbar. It combines movement, mindfulness, and remembrance of Allah in a way children find engaging. This time can also be used to encourage reflection in Allah’s creation eg. “Subhanallah, my Allah created these beautiful clouds.”
Moderated Screen Time
Unlimited access to almost anything in this world is usually harmful, and the same applies to screens, which have grown to become part of our lives – almost part of our bodies. While unlimited screen time may keep children occupied for a while, the damage it can cause to their physical health, emotional balance, and, most importantly, their Iman, is unimaginable. Completely cutting out screens is also unrealistic, as they are now almost everywhere we look. As parents, it is important to allow children access to devices for a specified amount of time, ensure their use is monitored, and keep them within the family’s view while they are on them.
Parents should also make a conscious effort to replace harmful or unsuitable content with educational or Islamic alternatives, such as the quizzes, games, and books available on Nasihah World, helping to mitigate some of the dangers these devices pose.
Abu Dharr (RA) said: “The Messenger of Allah said to me: ‘Have Consciousness of Allah wherever you are, and follow an evil deed up with a good one to wipe it out, and treat the people with good character.”
Why Traditions Matter
These traditions are not about perfection; they are about presence. In a world full of distractions, they create blessed pauses where Islam and family are always intertwined. As Muslims, we draw from the Qur’an and Sunnah to guide our homes, but it is in the small, consistent acts that children truly absorb the beauty of Islam.
By weaving these traditions into daily life, we give our children more than memories; we give them strong foundations of Iman and love that will carry them into adulthood.
